6 reasons I’m taking a solo trip now – without my BF

I’ve been thinking about taking a solo trip for a while now, and after much deliberation, I finally booked myself onto a flight.

At the end of September, I’ll be jetting off to Geneva Switzerland for a weekend of fondues and sightseeing around its lakes and mountains. I’m a bit anxious as it’ll be my first time going on a solo trip, but I’m also really excited to see Switzerland and the nearby French alps, which I’ve been swooning over for some time now.

When you think of a solo traveller, your first thought might be of a young, carefree singleton who’s on an around-the-world adventure carrying everything in their backpack. But actually, I’m the complete opposite. I’m hurtling towards my 30s now, and as much as I used to think (or wanted to believe) that I was a spontaneous thrill seeker, as an adult I’m a realistic, sensible, and highly organised individual who’s been in a relationship with one man for the past eight and a half years.

As a member of the travel blogging community, the practice of travelling alone no matter what your age or situation is a pretty normal one, but in everyday life, I don’t think this is the case. In a time where we can’t be alone in public without aimlessly thumbing through our phones for comfort, let alone face the shame of having to eat out by ourselves (god forbid), I can see why the idea of intentionally going on holiday without your partner might seem strange.

So for anyone who might wonder why I, and many others, choose to do so, here are six reasons why I’m taking a solo trip now without my other half.

1. To get out of my comfort zone

I’m definitely not denying that doing some things alone can feel daunting, but when you’ve been sharing every aspect of your life with someone else for years, the prospect of being on your own again can feel even more so. I want to get out of my comfort zone, and push myself to navigate through a new place on my own.

2. To be independent

The thing that I value the most in my life is my independence, and while most people say they’d happily go back to their school years again, I personally couldn’t think of anything worse. My best life started in my mid-20s, and I LOVE being an adult. I love being able to make my own decisions, and run my own life on my own time. As part of that, it means being able to pack up my bags and go wherever I want – and for me, you can’t get much more independent than that.

3. For the experience

I love hearing about other people’s travel stories and adventures, but I also want to create my own. I really admire people who’ve travelled solo before, and I want to know what it’s like to do the same.

I’ve also never stayed in a hostel before, and I’m thinking about booking myself one for my trip too, which I would claim was for the experience, but actually Geneva’s just really expensive and I’m being priced out of the hotels!

4. Not to miss out on life

Just because my boyfriend doesn’t have enough annual leave, doesn’t mean it should stop me from travelling. Since I quit my job earlier this year, I’ve got much more time than others to explore, meaning it’s either go by myself or not at all.

Even though I’ve chosen the former, I’m still keeping him in mind when choosing my solo destinations – there are some places he’s not as keen on visiting as me, so this way I’ll still get to go where I want to when he’s not able to travel anyway – win win.

5. To be my own person

When you’ve been in a relationship for several years, you’ll start to be seen as a couple in everyone’s eyes. When you’re invited to a celebration, you’re invited as a couple, and when you turn up to a gathering without your partner, people will ask why the other person’s not there.

Don’t get me wrong, I love being one half of our relationship, but it’s also important to take the time to remember that you are your own person.

6. For the challenge

I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t a bit anxious about it, but I know solo travel won’t be as daunting as it might sound. I’m looking forward to the experience of having to navigate through a new country by myself, and all of the small challenges that’ll come with it.

Some say life starts at the end of your comfort zone, and I’m looking forward to going outside of mine.

Have you taken a solo trip, or would you? Do you have other reasons for travelling alone?
Tell me what you think! Oh, and if you’ve been to Geneva before, please send me your tips!

More personal posts:
I quit my job – but not just to travel
Why I’m tired of being asked ‘where are you from’

Comments

14 Comments
  1. posted by
    Steph
    Sep 2, 2017 Reply

    I started travelling solo because it was either on my own or not at all and it’s now an important part of my ‘me’ time. Have a great time in Geneva!

    • posted by
      Vic
      Sep 3, 2017 Reply

      What a great way to get your ‘me’ time! 🙂

  2. posted by
    Corinne
    Sep 2, 2017 Reply

    Really inspiring! I never seem to find the courage to travel far without my husband (or the dog!) but you definitely said a lot of the things I’ve thought.

    • posted by
      Vic
      Sep 3, 2017 Reply

      Maybe you could start off somewhere closer to home and then branch out further? It’s totally OK too though if it’s not for you, I’m just going to try it and see 🙂

  3. posted by
    Zara
    Sep 2, 2017 Reply

    LOVE this post! I travel without my husband all the time. We’ve been married for six years and together for 8 and although I love him dearly, I also love being independent and adventurous. Most people do not get it though! I get so many sad looks and comments from friends when they wonder why I go away by myself, as if I don’t have any friends to go with. They don’t understand that I want to go on my own!

    • posted by
      Vic
      Sep 3, 2017 Reply

      Thanks Zara! Glad you can relate and I totally get that. It’s a shame that being alone is seen to be sad when a lot of people enjoy it!

  4. posted by
    Christie Sultemeier
    Sep 2, 2017 Reply

    Good for you!! I bet you’ll love it. I prefer traveling with friends but it’s also nice to be alone every once in awhile as you clearly know based on all of your points above!

    • posted by
      Vic
      Sep 3, 2017 Reply

      It’s definitely nice to have friends to share experiences with! I’ll see how solo travel compares when I go 🙂

  5. posted by
    Sarah
    Sep 3, 2017 Reply

    I admire you for doing this. I love traveling with my husband and don’t think I’d want to take a solo trip but I love the times I get to be solo on our trips – going to a museum by myself or just taking a walk. It’s nice to be with my own thoughts and be independent and outside my comfort zone. Have an amazing time in Geneva. We almost went there this year but ended up skipping it so it’s still on the list!

    • posted by
      Vic
      Sep 3, 2017 Reply

      Thanks Sarah! Having your own time during trips together sounds like a really good compromise actually, and surprisingly it’s not something we’ve done before! Hope you get to see Geneva soon too 🙂

  6. posted by
    Danie
    Sep 3, 2017 Reply

    My bf and I both travel full time, months together and months apart, and the apart time is so so important for both of us. I feel so much more independent and powerful when I travel alone- I could do anything, go anywhere at the drop of a hat. Enjoy!!

  7. posted by
    Brianna
    Sep 4, 2017 Reply

    Get it girl! Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you can’t also be your own person. I’m married and often take solo trips abroad. They key is to have a great partner and great trust in your relationship 🙂

  8. posted by
    Lou
    Sep 17, 2017 Reply

    Yay, how exciting! Those are six great reasons!

  9. posted by
    myccei
    Sep 28, 2017 Reply

    But many people get sucked into the routine of always accompanying someone else, missing out on the benefits of taking a solo day.

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